One Income But Builds A Home

I always hear people say in panic, “Why are you not working? This is not the trend now!!! It is impossible to live in one income these days!!!! You are losing your mind! Those were my thoughts also when it was only my brother who was working and he is still the one who puts the bacon on the table up until now but someone serves it so beautifully that it makes me change my mind. 

I want you to meet my brother (Jerry), his only daughter (Jherra), & his wife (Darwin). This was on their thin & challenging days but they have stood the test of time. 

My brother was the one working on a very small monthly income and his wife stayed and turned their house into a home. They raised a child, have a simple but super beautiful and peaceful home, have a modest appliances, enjoyed with friends and have a blast in life. I know that they went through the toughest of days but they emerged the strongest as the time went by. With their small income, they built a house and sheltered both of their respective families.  They have been so generous of their spaces regardless if they were the one who sweat and sacrificed for it. 

At their home, he gets up to work and his wife provided a first class service for their family. They have healthy food, a tidy house, and a peaceful home. In most cases, their home has been a shelter for cousins who temporarily strayed away from their respective partners and went home refreshed. 

The following are what I learn from a model family who live in just one income:

1) DON’T MIND WHAT PEOPLE WILL SAY. I’m sure they must have feel the pressure of the voices all around them but they stick to what works for them. For them, it’s best that one works while the other stayed at home to raise a child and build a sanctuary of peace. To each it’s own. We have different path to follow and I am sure that they have followed through faithfully and consistently.

2) MAKE THE MOST OF WHAT YOU HAVE. My sister in law can turn a trash into gold. She uses it for decorations,  painted it herself and viola, her home is the best, no bias, promise. She is just a gifted home maker who just minds her own business. 

3) BUDGET AND STICK WITH IT. With a very small income that my brother have, she literally sticks to her budget and enjoy life. She has no internet, no facebook account, no instagram, no twitter, but bask on peace. And she did not look disheveled at all. She knows how to carry herself with class and elegance. And wait, my brother is the most at peace without social media too.

That’s my sister in law Darwin. Isn’t she lovely? I have a high regard on her. That does mean to say that we don’t have disagreement? We do but I consider her a great blessing to our family. 

4) BE CONTENT. In their home, there is peace because they are contented with what they have but keeps on dreaming. I remember at one point my brother told me, “You serve the Lord, You are driving a car, have a high salary, but you don’t have peace.” It was an eye opener for me and I will never forget it. To desire for material possessions and money drives us crazy but to be content gives us the space to have more. Eventually, my brother has been blessed not just with possessions but with their fats as well (hahahaha).

5) ENJOY LIFE. I’ve seen them respecting each other while enjoying simplicity at its core. 

She does the laundry.

But he helped when the rain pours so suddenly.

6) RAISE A GOOD NATURED CHILD. Their daughter though going through teenage challenges is such a lovely lady and our future Miss Universe (hahaha) 

I woke up like this. That’s their only daughter who is oh so beautiful. 

They have modeled what a contented family really is.

***********************************************************************For me, my brother and his family  is successful and have so much more. Sometimes, he looked down at himself probably because of what he has seen around him. Sometimes we missed the gold within us because we see glitters that will just fade but theirs is a glitter that stays. I will never forget when I was 8 when I prayed to the good Lord that my brother will have the best wife and my sisters will have the best husband. He did answer my prayers. 

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Social Media & Me 

There was no doubt that I was so into social media. I was once a Facebook addict at the same time a paranoid Christian who hit people who are not at par with my opinion. When I have an ill feeling towards a brother and a sister in Christ, I used it as my platform to pour out my emotions but was too coward to follow what Jesus said, and that is if I am offended by someone else, I should go to that person and settle the offenses privately. It was not me. There were times too that I gave my unsolicited advice to people, appearing to be too intellectual about almost everything but cranky, bitter, and toxic to be around with. 

I should say that hitting someone in these platform, is the best version of a COWARD and I am talking about myself. I was complaining about everyone’s poisonous posts without realizing that many has died with what I posted myself. 

My two years of hiatus away from the mob or from the ministry to be exact without an Internet connection and without a tablet nor a smart phone gave me a realization that I was once a toxic silent journalist of my own while at the same time eating toxic feeds from bitter people too. 

Last year was a lightbulb that generally opened my eyes to a passion that I should not have. It was one morning when I just reported to work when a co-worker who really respected me a lot told me that I must be a DUTERTARDS. There is no doubt that I love the Philippine President but to be told a DUTERTARDS more than a JESUS FANATIC convicted my way of using social media as a whole. I smiled with my colleague’s genuine observation but I silently repented for my inability to increase the fame of JESUS more than any other man or woman on earth. As John in the Bible said, Let JESUS increase, and I decrease. I repented for using my talent to write to boast about someone I don’t know and who has no idea about my existence on this earth.

On the other hand, there were times too that I felt like I have a high blood pressure from all the feeds of negative people who hit others on Facebook. I get pissed off of people showing off what they possessed but are too lonely and swearing in real life. I get tired of me posting verses on my wall but I don’t have the fruit of the Holy Spirit to match. In the same way that I am tired of too much religiosity, pretensions, the know it alls, the Pharisees, hypocrites,  and so much more. If I look at it closely, that just describes me more than anyone else. 

This year, I made a decision to use my social media for a good cause. On the other hand, I unfollow a lot of people on Facebook because their posts will just cause irritations to my heart and my emotions will bubble up until it swirl to my failure to control myself or to listen to the Holy Spirit and I will start hitting the people I know and even with those whom I don’t know. I also removed my twitter app because I’ve got too much information but I lacked application. By now, I use these platforms to hopefully stir up good vibes in the lives of people and eventually may those who will read it will have a relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ as well. 

I just realized that my writings will one day be read by my own children and their children’s children and I hope to leave a legacy of positivity and faith in this negative world. If today’s generation is too negative already,  then how much more in the years to come. 

And since I unfollow a lot of people but still remain as friends, it makes my life so at peace too. I don’t get to read hypocrisy and no fake photos to watch. I guess, we mastered to be too plastic these days to impress the people we don’t know but hit the people who matters most to us in private because we become so uneasy with what we just feed ourselves in the process. 

In return, I also don’t want to waste the talent that God has given me by participating trash talks while at the same time claiming to be a follower of Jesus. I don’t want to be too religious with my lips but too hypocrite with my walk. I don’t want to post all the HALLELUJAHS on my wall while cursing someone on a private conversation. I don’t want to copy and paste verses but my heart is so unaffected by His Word in real life.

I love social media but I hope that from this year and forward, it will just radiate nothing but faith and positivity. That one day when my children will be reading it, they too will be inspired to walk on their dreams, win in life, laugh in good times and bad, and trust in the Lord Jesus Christ.

Your life does not get better by CHANCE, it gets better by CHANGE ~ JIM ROHN~

Be Contented

​Having a preview of someone else’s life is just one click away and the more we gazed at people into thinking that they must be so lucky and we must be probably a crap, we created a spirit of discontentment in our lives. All of a sudden we forget that we have been so blessed to have eyes to see, nose to smell, feet to walk, hands to touch, and mouth to taste food or foods during the holidays. In a snap, our happy disposition has been changed and turned into a toxic human being no one would like to be around with.  Then in just an instant like a magic wand, we want to have what others have. We want the house of Emily Brunt, the successful show of Oprah Winfrey, the car of Angel Locsin and the perfect family of the Gomezes. Oh oh. Why? Because we see a little preview of their well edited lives in pictures and we lose to appreciate what God has entrusted us in our season. 

We live in a nice house but we can’t rejoice because we want the house of someone we’ve just seen at instagram or probably the newly built house of our neighbors. We don’t have any idea if the one living there has no sleep at night wondering how to pay their well known beautiful space. We pay our jeepney fare and sulk in our corner sit envious of those flashy cars that passed by without us knowing that the car is going to be taken away from them by the bank because they can’t pay the monthly payment. We have a basic phone to send and receive a text message but we can’t be happy because we are so envious of someone elses latest iphone without realizig that they are paying for it monthly and they don’t have enough money to pay for their house rent and is so stressed out on what to pay for their children’s tuition fee.

Let’s start to be contented and be grateful with what we have without losing our childlike kind of faith by believing God for more. But with promotion comes faithfulness. If we can’t be faithful with what we have now, how can we be faithful when we are trusted with more? If we can’t give now, how can we share our blessings when we have more than enough? 
If we are discontented now when we are not even paying for the air that we breathe, then to have MORE isn’t a promise to live a contented life. 
Contentment is an attitude and a direct consequence of a grateful heart.
In 1 Timothy 6:6 it says, Yet true godliness with contentment is itself great wealth. NLT
So there you go. Let’s start cultivating a heart of contentment to win the war against comparison.
That’s #ChilisWinsDayTips to be a winner in life🏃

~Yes, this is my phone for a 2 years. It can receive text and send a text message. It can call and receive a call and I am happy with it. It’s way too cheap and I am not paying the telephone company monthly to be IN~

Highlights Vs Reality

​There is no doubt that we are in the time of our lives where the worship of stuff is the in thing and comparison is wildly overwhelming. We just click in and scroll instagram, facebook, twitter, and we see a picture of too good to be true poses, smiles and things that if we are not careful will slowly crept into our soul. Most of the time, we see prayers to the Lord in these social sites that is so contradictory to what Jesus said when we pray. In Matthew 6:6 Jesus said, But when you pray,  go into your PRIVATE ROOM, SHUT YOUR DOOR and pray to your Father who is in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you (HCSB). We are in this season when verses are so easy to copy and paste to appear religious, me included, but has no evident of a changed lives. We are in this phase of BeautyPlus and 360 filter kind of applications that makes our photos appears fabulous as if everything is perfectly going on but it took 20 times of filters to finally decide the best angle. We are in this moment when everything can just be posted to keep up with the Joneses that we failed to keep up with what He says. In just one scroll, we can see the opinion of one famous individual in a far away land and we are just a type away to also make our thoughts known. Yes. That’s so me. 

At times, we become so engrossed of what others have become that we failed to check how our lives have turned out to be. The opinions of so many people who don’t know us become our go to advice to live. In some cases, we become so obsessed with what others have that we slowly kill ourselves in the process just to be in where everyone is IN. 

The truth of the matter is, the social sites photos of people including us is really not the real us. We see people in their best smile that seemed to have the best vacation and we join the loneliest party called PITY PARTY because how come life for them fares well but it doesn’t sit well with me? We see someone that seeemd enjoying their marriage life and we sulk in the corner joining a radio drama of why does she or he has the best spouse while mine doesn’t seem to care without us having an idea of how they kneeled down in prayer very early in the morning to have that kind of marriage while we fall asleep. We watch people driving their own brand new car and we wonder why we are still riding a bus without knowing that they push their butt off to work in order to pay their vehicle a month.
What am I saying? The social site photos are not always the real us. 
So what we going to do? Let’s see what we have and start thanking God. Let’s thank God for our job. It may not be the best job but we have a job and it puts food on our table. Let’s thank God for our health. We may not have a medical insurance but the Lord blessed our bodies with His strength and His vigor. Let’s thank God for our house. We may not have a mansion like our neighbor does but we are not in debt. Let’s thank God for our families. Ours may not be perfect but it has been the best. Let’s thank God for our partner, spouse, wife, and husband. They may not look like Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie but they are the one who sacrifice their life for us to prove their love. Let’s thank God for who we are. We may not earn millions yet and our face may not look like someone in the magazine stand whose been photoshopped a thousand times over, but hey, we are created in the image and likeness of God and regardless of how small we seemed to be, we truly matter in His University.
Let’s not compare our lives in the highlights of someone else because we have no idea of how their back story really looks like. Let the authenticity in us shines out and let the spirit of Praise be our new habit. 
We have been so much blessed to compare ourselves to a facade that we failed to see His day to day grace, mercy, unfailing love, protection and a Father kind of care.
Let’s get real without being fooled by someone elses filtered highlights.

~Because the reality is I don’t always wear make up and life is not always organize as I wanted it to be~

He Knows You

JESUS SAID, “MARY” (John 20:16).

You may not have a Facebook account, but He knows you in the face. You may not have iNSTAGRAM but you are instantly known by Him. You may not have TWITTER, but He got you in His heart. You may feel left out but you are not out of His sight. You may feel rejected but He accepts you just as you are. You may feel lonely but He is forever by your side.  You may feel so unknown but He personally knows your name.

So, when the whole world seemed at odds against you, remember, that He who loves the world is for you and just like He acknowledged and recognized Mary by her name, to you He did the same.

Cheer up.

For He who loves the world holds your world in His Heart💕

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Test To Closeness

I am a relational, quality type of gal and in saying, I love a relationship build in this circle. I love nice talks and laughter. I love the Word of God but if that’s just what people are texting me everyday, these Scriptures that don’t even have a revelation on their part but just passed on for texting sake, it kinda turned me off. I don’t like it because number one I read my Bible. It also gets into my nerve these “how are you kind of thing in public cyberspace.” The “how are you melted the heart when it’s privately sent.

Concern don’t need to be showed off but rather it has to be done out of genuine relational concern. Send SMS. Message in Messenger. Go on Viber. Visit if you can.

We don’t need to let people know that we are concern of someone else we think is close to us but rather let’s be personal in letting someone know our genuine care. I guess, one of the disadvantages of Social Media is we become too impersonal, too fake, and too coward to hide on our posts.

Intimacy either to friends, to your husband or wife, to your children, to our boyfriend or girlfriend does not necessarily need to be publicly shown but it must be felt in their heart.

Jesus Loves You🌻

Handling Accusations

We are in a quick information generation when everything we need to know are just right in our finger tips. While what we know may not be the absolute accurate, the knowledge can sometimes will in most cases grip our hearts in tremendous fear, others in all out disappointment. The feeds on social media to most has been accepted as the truth and the counsel of the knowledge of God which is His Word is brushed off as hearsay and baseless. The attacks among brethren are now subtly hidden in blogs, FB posts, tweets, retweets and IG captions and what was once a taboo in moral conducts and ethics has been flat out accepted as the new normal. Accusing others now can be written online and just in seconds, bad news become trending and viral, the talk of the town and the headlines on the news. Personal assassination is the easiest to do now and to answer an accusation without evidences can be done in one stop internet connections. People now lose their peace in just a simple browse and instead of walking in faith, they are boiling in anger and the thought of reacting in a much sharper remarks.

Todays thoughts made me so in awe of Jesus. From my daily Bible reading, it captures an example image of handling accusations Jesus way.

Matthew 27:12-14 says, when He was accused by the chief priests and the elders, He gave no answer. Then Pilate asked him, “Don’t you hear the testimony they are charging against you?” But Jesus made no reply, not even to a single charge – to the great amazement of the governor (NIV).

The natural reaction could have been saving one’s reputation but to a MAN who knew who He really was, it’s not worth a defense. He knew that He came to seek and save the lost.

So here’s my take heart lesson from Jesus in handling accusations:

1) When we are walking in integrity, there’s no smoke that’s to be feared.
2) When we know our purpose and calling, opinions from anyone doesn’t matter at all.
3) When we are tempted to lash out, remember Jesus, don’t reply and let’s continue to fulfill our life purpose.
4) When we want peace, lets feed on the Written Word and the Living Word more than taking a screenshot from the newsfeeds.

I failed in the past but I’m progressing now. Sometimes, opinions still strike me so sharply but in most cases, it’s just the result of my failure to gaze upon Jesus.

Therefore, let’s handle accusations Jesus way 💙

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Jesus Loves You🌻